Remembering To Be Right Where We Are
My son lost his two front teeth simultaneously. Like, literally his two teeth came out at once. He had those bad boys wiggling loose from his gums FOREVER, just demanding to be pulled. It became uncomfortable for him to attempt to eat around two porcelain stones that were barely hanging on. However, he had no intention of pulling them out. So after a lot of pleading (and a bribe of ice cream), he let dad pull both teeth out.
Losing both teeth at once created a dramatic effect on my son. It instantly changed his look and the way he talks. His vivacious and fiery demeanor was intensified and sweetened with the loss of those two teeth. The cutest little lisp made him seem both younger and older all at once. I found it completely adorable and with each passing day I see those new teeth popping through and I feel a twinge of sadness because it reminds me that this stage won't last forever.
But not every person sees change as a good thing. Someone made fun of his lisp at school. This affected my son by choosing an, "If I can't beat 'em, I'll join 'em" mentality, getting ahead of the teasing he opted to be "silly on purpose". He compensated his feelings of being different by talking in baby talk. It's almost as if he wants to choose how he will be different instead of letting others tell him how his uniqueness makes him "wrong". It made me sad. If he only knew how endearing his temporary lisp is to me! If he only understood what it represents! A unique milestone! A new chapter! He's growing up! It won't last forever. I'd love it if he'd embrace it and not hide from who he is in the midst of transition.
Don't we all have so much to learn from a situation like this?
When we are perceiving our unique differences as negatives rather than positives, we are holding ourselves back from being purposeful RIGHT WHERE WE ARE.
The discontent for our exact situation says so much about how we feel about ourselves and our Creator.
It says we want more from life, but it also says we don't want the more that God wants for our lives.
Where have you "lost your teeth" and wish that you could "instantly grow new ones"?
With your season of life: staying at home with the babies when you'd rather be at work.
With your body: having a few extra pounds when you want to fit into that dress you wore 5 years ago.
With relationships: desiring easy, fun, and known friendships when you just moved into a new city.
Our attempts to make life better by compensating our circumstances may work for a while. But ultimately attempts will fall flat as we continue to be left disappointed with our current situation because it hasn't instantly changed. If this is the cycle you find yourself in, it's time for a reality check.
Often times we wish for things in life that aren't our actual situation. Dreams are good, desires for more in life are great, but some of our hopes and dreams aren't part of God's plan and we tend to ignore the unique situation He has us in RIGHT NOW that is valuable and worthy.
You may not like where you are, but God always loves you at every stage. Your value and worth never change, no matter what.
If you could accept this truth, how would your life instantly change?
Would you instantly drop those 10 lbs, have that new job, make those new friends?
The instant change will happen in your heart. And really, isn't that what we are attempting to mend?
God sees us as perfect...when we see the defects. We try to hide them, cover them up, or force a new perspective on those who've hurt us. We're so precious in the very stage we are enduring. Learn from this situation and apply it to your proverbial lisp.
As you wait for your new teeth to grow in, God's using you right where you are. Don't cover it up. Be free. You are exactly where you are supposed to be.